Ammu
As usual every day getting ready in the morning is a battle. You get ready at your own pace and cannot be hurried. I was, yet again, reminding you how I was late for work and how it was not very nice of you to not feel bad that you were making me late for work.
You happily kept singing while saying -' I will try and get dressed faster amma' - while just not doing anything remotely of that sort! I was frustrated and I said ' That is very mean of you kannamma.. you are not even worried I am getting late and you are showing that you do not care by singing happily'. You blinked cutely and said ' Oh no amma.. I am singing because I am happy. And I am happy not because you will be late but because R ( that is madam is referring to herself!) is always happy, no matter what! La, tra lalala'. I did not know what to say but on my drive to work I could not stop the smile this memory brought to my lips :)
One other reason you are always late is because you like to fill your mornings with chit chat with me. While dressing up, you said ' Amma, one of my friends wears a crop top in swimming and one other friend of mine at the holiday club wears a stringy cropped top and trousers. I am not sure if I like it or but is it ok to wear dresses like that?'. I said 'Kannamma, when you go seeking for attention through your dressing or otherwise, you will always end up getting the wrong sort of attention. Always be dignified and honest and kind and the right sort of attention will come to you. It will look like those who seek attention get it and are most popular but behind the popularity is lots of mean backstabbing. So, be careful'. As always, I do not know how to do light conversation and you and your dad do not know how to do a heavy one!
So, when I said this, you came back with ' T in my class , though he belongs to another section, always seeks me out to say hi and bye, even though we have no reason to speak to each other. Is that the right sort of attention amma?' I was gobsmacked! T is this nice boy who we also know socially. Though I was prepared to give the gyan, I was not prepared for questions! So, I managed to improvise and said ' Yes pattu, as long as he does not force you to talk to him even if you do not want to and respects you and is a good friend to you, it is the right sort of attention'.
All sorted, you went to school chirping and skipping as always.
By the way, in an effort make you a tad more serious, I have started meditation sessions for you. We started 20 days ago and for the past 10 days you have been doing 10 minutes of fantastic meditation. (Before that I slowly increased from 5 minutes to 10) From day 1, you focused, sat still and took deep breaths in and out as though you have been doing it all your life!
So, my theory that you would have found it difficult to sit in one place, not talk and to not do anything funny will be impossible for you? - right out of the window!
What an enigma you are my chellame! But you are my enigma and the most sunshiny, brilliant enigma at that.
Love, love, love you da chellame for that and more!
Amma
As usual every day getting ready in the morning is a battle. You get ready at your own pace and cannot be hurried. I was, yet again, reminding you how I was late for work and how it was not very nice of you to not feel bad that you were making me late for work.
You happily kept singing while saying -' I will try and get dressed faster amma' - while just not doing anything remotely of that sort! I was frustrated and I said ' That is very mean of you kannamma.. you are not even worried I am getting late and you are showing that you do not care by singing happily'. You blinked cutely and said ' Oh no amma.. I am singing because I am happy. And I am happy not because you will be late but because R ( that is madam is referring to herself!) is always happy, no matter what! La, tra lalala'. I did not know what to say but on my drive to work I could not stop the smile this memory brought to my lips :)
One other reason you are always late is because you like to fill your mornings with chit chat with me. While dressing up, you said ' Amma, one of my friends wears a crop top in swimming and one other friend of mine at the holiday club wears a stringy cropped top and trousers. I am not sure if I like it or but is it ok to wear dresses like that?'. I said 'Kannamma, when you go seeking for attention through your dressing or otherwise, you will always end up getting the wrong sort of attention. Always be dignified and honest and kind and the right sort of attention will come to you. It will look like those who seek attention get it and are most popular but behind the popularity is lots of mean backstabbing. So, be careful'. As always, I do not know how to do light conversation and you and your dad do not know how to do a heavy one!
So, when I said this, you came back with ' T in my class , though he belongs to another section, always seeks me out to say hi and bye, even though we have no reason to speak to each other. Is that the right sort of attention amma?' I was gobsmacked! T is this nice boy who we also know socially. Though I was prepared to give the gyan, I was not prepared for questions! So, I managed to improvise and said ' Yes pattu, as long as he does not force you to talk to him even if you do not want to and respects you and is a good friend to you, it is the right sort of attention'.
All sorted, you went to school chirping and skipping as always.
By the way, in an effort make you a tad more serious, I have started meditation sessions for you. We started 20 days ago and for the past 10 days you have been doing 10 minutes of fantastic meditation. (Before that I slowly increased from 5 minutes to 10) From day 1, you focused, sat still and took deep breaths in and out as though you have been doing it all your life!
So, my theory that you would have found it difficult to sit in one place, not talk and to not do anything funny will be impossible for you? - right out of the window!
What an enigma you are my chellame! But you are my enigma and the most sunshiny, brilliant enigma at that.
Love, love, love you da chellame for that and more!
Amma
