Sweetheart
We have just had 2 of our biggest fights till date and I would like to write what I feel. I am frustrated that you can do addition, subtraction, multiplication and division mentally, you are able to do slightly complicated word problems, you can say how many minutes it is to a particular time but for some strange reason, you refuse, adamantly refuse to understand half an hour before half past an 'o clock is the same 'o clock!
Appa and I have tried telling you softly, kindly, gently, harshly - you are having none of it. Everything on your terms and your terms only! Lots of pen licenses being earned in class but when I ask you why you have not got yours , you say ' They have to give it to everybody by end of this year, so why hurry amma? Let it come when it will! '.
When appa and I are rushing anywhere, no matter how much we beg, scream, jump, sweet-talk you - you cannot be rushed. Your life. Your time. Your terms. At 7 years of age. God give us strength!
You have been asked to demonstrate to others in swimming class last week, in dance and also in class on how to do a good job. As though, post our fight you were trying to prove something to me! You have also got your trophy in Piano class. But all these only because you wanted them to. Never when pushed or rushed. Your classes. Your terms.
The words that I hear nowadays from most parents who know you - ' She is emotionally strong. Very confident. You need not worry about her'. I am glad and happy. But am also a bit scared.
Your dad is like that but sometimes that makes him too comfortable with nothing to push him to do the best that he can. When we are not satisfied, we can push ourselves to the best of our potential. So, sometimes, chella kutti, it makes sense to be restless and thirsting after something. :)
But.. you dad also says that you are not completely like him. We are still trying to figure you out.
Here's to interesting times ahead for all of us kannamma! :)
Lest I forget, let me also note that you brush, shower and dress up all by yourself , lay out the dishes, spoons, plates etc and feed yourselves - but all in your own good time.
I was mighty impressed , when the other day, I came tired from work and you said ' You just sit down right there and rest nicely. Let me lay out the food for both of us'
I knew then that I was in for a long wait, but for those kind words thangame..am willing to wait forever!
Love you darling.
Amma
We have just had 2 of our biggest fights till date and I would like to write what I feel. I am frustrated that you can do addition, subtraction, multiplication and division mentally, you are able to do slightly complicated word problems, you can say how many minutes it is to a particular time but for some strange reason, you refuse, adamantly refuse to understand half an hour before half past an 'o clock is the same 'o clock!
Appa and I have tried telling you softly, kindly, gently, harshly - you are having none of it. Everything on your terms and your terms only! Lots of pen licenses being earned in class but when I ask you why you have not got yours , you say ' They have to give it to everybody by end of this year, so why hurry amma? Let it come when it will! '.
When appa and I are rushing anywhere, no matter how much we beg, scream, jump, sweet-talk you - you cannot be rushed. Your life. Your time. Your terms. At 7 years of age. God give us strength!
You have been asked to demonstrate to others in swimming class last week, in dance and also in class on how to do a good job. As though, post our fight you were trying to prove something to me! You have also got your trophy in Piano class. But all these only because you wanted them to. Never when pushed or rushed. Your classes. Your terms.
The words that I hear nowadays from most parents who know you - ' She is emotionally strong. Very confident. You need not worry about her'. I am glad and happy. But am also a bit scared.
Your dad is like that but sometimes that makes him too comfortable with nothing to push him to do the best that he can. When we are not satisfied, we can push ourselves to the best of our potential. So, sometimes, chella kutti, it makes sense to be restless and thirsting after something. :)
But.. you dad also says that you are not completely like him. We are still trying to figure you out.
Here's to interesting times ahead for all of us kannamma! :)
Lest I forget, let me also note that you brush, shower and dress up all by yourself , lay out the dishes, spoons, plates etc and feed yourselves - but all in your own good time.
I was mighty impressed , when the other day, I came tired from work and you said ' You just sit down right there and rest nicely. Let me lay out the food for both of us'
I knew then that I was in for a long wait, but for those kind words thangame..am willing to wait forever!
Love you darling.
Amma
